Search This Blog

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Androgynous upbringing

First thing's first, me and ma old buddy Yan have decided to commence on a 8 week art project to do paintings of dragons and stuff and launch a gallery before he goes to the states... I'll try to update as it goes along. (fingers crossed)
Ok back to topic.

Five-year-old raised ‘gender neutral’ says it’s ‘silly’ to differentiate between boys and girls


"Sasha Laxton, whose parents chose to bring him up as ‘gender neutral’, is seen giggling in the video with his mother, Beck, as she questions him about colours associated with girls and boys. "





Now isn't that the silliest thing ever. In my blog of observations 2012, article 14 states ...

Bad enough children have to deal with mad examinations, growing up with inflation and the extremely high cost of living (well depends on where you live.. Singapore is just a tad bit ridiculous) The last thing they will want to deal with is child abuse and peer bullying. (I hear the sissy chants in my head already)

I understand the view point of these parents but as much as you want to reduce your child's prejudice, the world isn't as kind as to allow such an event. The kids in primary school aren't going to be so kind as to NOT LAUGH at another boy who doesn't mind wearing a dress. I'm not saying we should just give up and conform. I grew up with 2 sisters and that meant I was using barbie dolls to fight transformers at the age of 3. But who cares. (ok maybe I shouldn't have said that)

Intentionally hiding the gender of a child and intentionally cross dressing him will lead to problems in the future. As much as I want to believe in sexual equality, tell the mother to be the gentleman of the house and the father to be the motherly figure and I'm sure they will have an awkward situation. Too much equality and too much balance will result in imbalance.

He should be taught to respect girls and be dutiful as a man. If he doesn't want to be prejudice then treat everyone kindly. Not dressing him up as a girl and telling him "It's ok! Men and women should wear what ever they want!". Me and many other men I know can carry off a pink flashy shirt with no problems nor questions on our sexuality therefor instilling confidence in the child should be far more important than confusing him with "global colour theories" etc.

Men and Women are built differently. Period. The societal norms were probably created by egotistical males with inflated egos of the past. But they were also created in the course of nature. Physical advantages naturally allow men to overpower women. That's it! He who wins the war writes history.

At the end of the day, my statement on children being a social experiment is based on how I see parents training their kids, coupled with the forced structure of our local education system. I'm not saying its good or bad. But as parents, we should always aim for the best methods in instilling our ideals (good or bad) into our next generation.

Chinese traditions of honouring your parents etc are all keepers because they add a positive impact to society. If you want your child to be un-baised to the opposite sex. Groom him up to be a fine gentleman and everything will fall into place naturally.

JJ

No comments:

Post a Comment

Total Pageviews